So to preface this post I need to tell you a story. Once upon a time there was a little boy whose one wish was to make everybody laugh. He knew that because of that wish some people would get offended, because the offensive jokes are the funniest ones. He also knew that he wasn't a person that actually believes the terrible, but funny, crap he says. Fast forward to the present, and he has made a reputation for being the funny fat guy that everyone knows. Maybe his jokes aren't G rated and unoffensive, but they are quite humorous even if a lot of people don't think so.
You guessed it. The little boy in that story is me. I enjoy making jokes that are racist, sexist, and all other kinds of ists. I don't do it to offend anyone, I don't do it because I hate minorities, or because I am a sexist pig. You are welcome to think that, but the truth is that I do it for the sake of a laugh and nothing else. If I can brighten another persons day by making fun of a homeless person or a quadriplegic trying to do any simple task then I am happy with that. I love it when people make fat people jokes. They are hilarious, and if you haven't noticed I am the fat guy king. I probably make fun of and laugh at more fat jokes at my own expense than anyone else. It is because laughter is the best medicine and I believe that if I laugh enough it might shake loose all of the fat, and I will be skinny. Ok not really. My mother had/has cancer, and my grandmother died from it. Guess what? I still laugh at cancer jokes. They are jokes, and they are hilarious. I don't take offense that someone jokes around about even though it is a serious problem that has affected my personal life. That is the way that people need to respond to humor. Not with anger, and a lot of debate over something that was meant to be a laugh. The only thing you are going to do is make yourself look like an idiot, because you couldn't laugh at a stereotype that isn't even necessarily true. Jokes are jokes people. Laugh at them. Don't get offended because you think you are being personally attacked. The truth is that you aren't.
What brought this up you might ask? Well I made a joke about women making sandwiches, and well...I don't think I have to tell you the rest. You know what? I think I will anyway. Someone commented on it saying something about gender equality, and then another person told them that they were stupid because it is just a joke, and blah blah blah. 45 comments later and I was feeling bad for the people that liked my status, because I am sure that they were getting notification after notification. It didn't help that it was past 1 am. I am pretty sure that everyone that either commented or liked the status was regretting it because of the argument that ensued on my post. What makes it worse is that later I was asked to remove said comments. Seriously? I believe in living with your mistakes, but as a favor for a friend I deleted the entire thread. Never again will I do this. If you are thinking about saying something on my post make sure that it is quick and witty, or that it isn't going to create a pointless argument that I am going to end up moderating, because you can't think of the consequences before you say something.
Now for my thoughts on gender equality the lighter fluid that helped ignite the fire that destroyed my post. I believe that women have every right to fight for equality in most things. There are a lot of things that are unfair about the way women are treated just because of their gender. But, just to be clear women are also women. Traditionally they have been the ones that stayed inside, did the cooking and cleaning, and raised the kids, We can't deny that it is in a woman's DNA to be able to do things like that. Women are incredibly skilled at multitasking. A skill that is necessary to be able to be a home maker. They are also very driven. Another skill that is required to be able to do something as unrewarding as housework. Men on the other hand have traditionally been the bread winners. They would go out and work all day, and then give in to their natural need to be lazy once they get home. I am not saying that is the way that it should be, but that is the way that it has been in the past. Now women are fighting against those gender roles, and that is great that they are trying to better their way of life. But by design they were created for child bearing, and with that there are certain things that they can just do out of instinct. Yes, with science catching up we may be growing children in farms like on The Matrix, and robots will be raising them like in Bicentennial Man, but until that actually happens women are still the only ones that can have children. Does that mean that they can't have a job, or do whatever else they are fighting for in this whole gender equality thing? Maybe, but you don't see me complaining that I can't get guys to buy me dinner every night in college, or that I can't get out of speeding tickets, or that I don't have a uterus. What it seems that women really want out of this whole feminist gender equality thing is all of the perks of being a man with none of the consequences. Sure it is great to be a guy, but it really isn't all it is cracked up to be. Honestly, if I could choose to be anything it would be dead. Then I wouldn't have to deal with all of these extremist people wanting things, but only wanting them enough to be annoying to everyone around them instead of actually doing something to make a difference. I can go around telling everyone that I am sick of everyone calling me fat, but then I go home and I eat pizza and drink soda. If I don't really do anything about it, then I have absolutely nothing to complain about. Don't get on social media sites to complain and argue about issues. That is like throwing a cotton ball at a rhino that is charging at you with the intent of making you its horn ornament. If you really believe that something needs to be done then either actually do something about it, or just shut up and let me make fun of you.
Walk a mile in my shoes. Or my mother's for that matter.
ReplyDeleteWhen you, expert geneticist, find where in the human genome it is coded that women are naturally predisposed to cook and clean, you let me know. Societal norms are *not* based in the science of genetics.
ReplyDeleteAlso, while you sit on your throne of privilege and laugh at the expense of other people, I'd like to remind you of who else laughed from their throne of privilege at the expense of others: Pharaohs, enslaving Israelites; Puritans, burning women at the stake for witchcraft; Slave-holders, kidnapping black people from their homes to torture and enslave them; Nazis, shoving Jews into gas chambers and using babies as target practice. Congratulations on joining the ranks of the privileged few. And while you pout and tell me about how difficult it is to be a white cisgendered heterosexual American male in this world, please remember to 1. check your privilege at the door; 2. keep your laughs at the expense of others to yourself. Because while you get to escape the effects of your abusive language, you perpetuate systems of oppression that have very *real* effects for those you joke about.
Get over yourself, grow up, and acquire an actual sense of humor.
Seriously this is one of the most ignorant and misinformed pieces I have ever seen. There are so many things wrong with your arguments I don't even know where to begin.
ReplyDeleteFirst, you defend your right to use insensitive humor on the basis that you make fun of yourself via fat jokes. How could you ever compare being fat to being quadriplegic. That is not even remotely in the same domain. An inability to walk, not being able to play with your kids, and always looked down upon and pitied is NOT something to joke about. Ever. And I'm pretty sure you don't tell your mom cancer jokes. And I'm pretty damn sure she wouldn't think they were funny. Making people laugh is great and wanting people to smile is a fantastic quality. But at the expense of others? Not cool. Are you thirteen?? Honestly if you're ~sO fuNnY~ as you make yourself out to be, you should have the intellectual capacity to make people laugh without embarrassing yourself by being racist and sexist "and all other kinds of ists."
Secondly, anyone who understands facebook knows that people who "like" statuses don't get notifications. You get notifications when someone responds to you or likes your comment and it's only one per status. So it was only the people participating in the discussion that were so called "getting notification after notification." Please, don't try to flatter yourself.
Now for the lighter fluid that helped me light this comment. "Women are also women." That right there. That statement right there is why there is still gender inequality today. Uneducated confederates like you are perpetuating the concept that women are restricted into defined roles.
ReplyDeleteYes, women can have children. Yes, they have been psychologically proven to be better multitaskers. But does that mean their place is in the home? Yes. IF THAT IS THEIR CHOICE. Do you know what other career values multitaskers? Surgeons. Pilots. Banking CEOs.
According to your logic, because women have uteruses and can multitask that automatically means their place is in the home. No. Like user dw said, it is absolute crap to say that women belong in the home because "it is in their DNA."
I remember you mentioning The Family a Proclamation to the World. Oh look, "Husband AND wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children" and again, "in these sacred responsibilities, fathers AND mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners." Yes, women are nurturers but that doesn't mean men don't have the capacity to fulfill the role as main nurturer. Yes, men provide for the family but that doesn't mean women don't have the capacity to preside over the family as well. Each gender is describes as having intrinsic talents, but never does it say that women belong in the home. NEVER. So don't you ever use the sacred Family a Proclamation to the World to argue your misogynistic ideals. It just makes you look extremely benighted; you obviously missed the entire point that mothers and fathers are equal caretakers.
"What it seems that women really want out of this whole feminist gender equality thing is all of the perks of being a man with none of the consequences." Okay hold up. This is the stupidest statement of all. Feminists don't want to be men. Where did you get that idea from? 1: women don't "get out of speeding tickets" that's absolute crap. 2: women don't date just to get free dinner. I'm a feminist and when I go out with my boyfriend we pay for ourselves. That's what gender equality is all about. Women want to be treated fairly. They don't want to be paid 77 cents to every dollar an equally educated equally qualified male gets in the same position. They want to be represented in government. They don't want to be stuck in these patriarchy-driven restrictive gender jail cells. Feminism isn't about wanting to be men. It's about having the CHOICE to become a surgeon or a doctor or a CEO or a mother.
Oh and you say that feminists want equal rights "but only wanting them enough to be annoying to everyone around them instead of actually doing something to make a difference"? Yeah . . . if feminists didn't protest and lobby, we still wouldn't be able to vote or own property or obtain inheritance. When you criticize the feminist movement, you are reducing women to human capitol. In this post you successfully reduced women to baby-making factories and by putting down the feminist movement, you're arguing that women shouldn't even be recognized by the government as actual people.
Please actually try to educate yourself on gender equality before you decide to define what it is next time.
You know, this is horrible. You should be extremely ashamed of yourself. Any women in your life would not appreciate the disparaging rhetoric you displayed here. I challenge you to find one woman who agrees with everything you laid out in this post. Let me know your findings.
I think you should take some time to learn what feminists actually want. You seem very misinformed, and your view of women seems very narrow and shallow.
ReplyDeleteI find it sad that you think you can only joke about offensive things. Sure, it's a free country and you can do what you want-- and sometimes the best way to deal with issues is through humor. I get that. However, "Go make a sandwich" is not an original joke, and it also perpetuates larger problems in our society (gender roles, male entitlement). Maybe you should take the time to research why that line might be offensive-- you might find that you are saying things you don't want to say.
I read the thread you deleted and I was appalled. You and your "friend" were rude and degrading.
You are proving my point by posting all of that on my blog. Why do you care what some moron says on some stupid blog? Why waste your time? The point of my post was that people take things too seriously on social media sites such as blogs, facebook, twitter, instagram, and whatever other sites people use. If people want to make a difference, then they should act instead of post their opinions everywhere just because someone says something that offends them. You are wasting your time with that. As far as everything I said. I was being sarcastic. I don't believe that women belong in the kitchen, I don't believe that they were made for child bearing, or that it is in their DNA to do said things. I never actually even said that I believe that. I said that it is traditionally how it has been. Also, I don't make fun of quadriplegics, I am not a racist, and I am absolutely not a sexist. I don't make fun of people with cancer, and I don't only think that offensive jokes are funny. As far as being misinformed...Yeah that is obvious. I only wrote a bunch of stuff that I have heard people say about the subject. Everything I said was a jab at people that actually believe that. Did I make that clear in my post? Probably not, but it doesn't matter. People that are already defensive about something won't read anything the way it is actually written. They will interpret it differently depending on their biases and their current mood. The way I write something will be interpreted completely different from the way that someone else will read it. This post was meant to be very sarcastic with the underlying main point that people tend to take things too seriously, and if they really want to make a difference to actually do something about it instead of waste their time arguing with people online. I just want to make that very clear. Also, my blog isn't intended for out of context reading. I am sarcastic in all of my posts, and without that knowledge it is easy to see that someone would think that I am a terrible person, but ask any girl that actually knows me. I treat women with complete respect.
ReplyDeleteOh and sparklebackpackgirl. The only thing I wrote on that thread was the actual status. I wrote nothing else. So don't include me being rude and degrading. If you didn't notice 5 women liked that status. They understood that I was just being stupid and making a joke.
Seriously you feminist people need to calm down. Learn to laugh at yourselves. I've never heard a more whiny group than you (maybe other than the LGBT) and that isn't a joke. You get so riled up. Accept that people have their own opinions and think groups like you are annoying and move on with your lives! Also, when people apologize for the dumb things they say, let it go. Why let a couple of comments ruin your lives with anger and hate?
ReplyDeleteYou guys are being offensive and want us to "calm down" and "laugh at ourselves." We do laugh at ourselves. That doesn't give you the right to be rude. You just use that as an excuse to say rude things that you might actually mean. How should we know if you're serious? There definitely are people that truly believe the things you make jokes about. You don't care about these real issues like equal rights for women and LGBT because you aren't educated enough about the subjects. You call these groups whiney. Maybe because they still aren't being heard. Think about the people in these situations. Not the groups. Real people that struggle and want change to happen. By complaining and joking about us, you are showing you are unsupportive and not willing to help the change. We are "getting out there and making a difference" on social media sites because we're trying to help our friends or associates become informed and stopping negative feelings towards these groups. Open your minds and stop making shitty excuses.
ReplyDeletethis is Cody Williams
ReplyDeleteTracee said she was going down to my house to "cut off his balls and wear them as a necklace" so i feel extremely vulnerable and threatened, her friend said "come to Cody's tonight, 7:00?" and that he wanted to "do so many bad things to him" so every night at around 7 i get so scared that someone could just attack me! i am literally shaking with anxiety.. meanwhile Tracee is on her Twitter account saying how she "roasted that br0" and that "if you cross me in any way i will fu*king destroy you" then turns around and tells everyone that she is scared.. i just want the fighting to stop, i am so terrified, i can't eat, i can't sleep, i can't focus on work. they keep talking about where i live, they are planning terrorism. they are planning to attack me, i dont feel safe, and i dont feel safety for my wife. can we all just forgive and forget?
the link for those quotes above are here
https://twitter.com/traceetibbz
its Cody again..
ReplyDeletewell it looks like she privatized her twitter. i guess she didn't want people finding out what she had been saying about me... oh well, i saved her entire twitter feed and all conversations for the last 3 days. so if you really wanna read the horrible things said about me and my wife and how they hope i have a gay daughter, just message me, i would be glad to email all of it to you. God bless America!